※ 引述《pomelowen (柚子)》之銘言： : : 性別: : (男/女) 男 : 問題類型: 個人魅力題升&追女(這樣符合規則吧QQ) : (個人魅力提昇/追男/追女/情侶相處/分手中(後)/其他) : 自己個性:認真負責、勤勞樸實，要相處很久的人才感受的到我的幽默感 : (請以20字內敘述自己的個性): : 對方個性: : (請以20字內敘述對方的個性): : 1.問題背景:從國中到現在(大二)喜歡過幾個女孩子，但是都沒有 : 在一起過，不是暗戀就是被發卡，長期的苦惱之後 : 認為是自己的個性出了些問題(下面列出四點狀況)，然而不 ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ There's no wrong with your personality. Your personality is good enough. : 論是男生女生都覺得我的個性不錯(認真負責誠懇那種)但總 : 是缺少了一點感覺 : 2.目前狀況: : 1. : 每次我與女生的互動都僅止於討論功課 : 的問題或者是處理事情 很難跟她們輕鬆自然的聊天 : 每次看到朋友與她們能夠很自然的在一起打打鬧鬧都 : 覺得好羨慕 但是私底下明明她們對我的評價都說我 ^^^^^^^^^ Everybody has his own character. You don't need to envy other people's character. You are what you are and remember it. : 是個有趣的人(我辦活動時帶團康跟演戲都很放的開) : 但每次要開心的打鬧說笑聊八卦都感覺很難融入 : 2.她們常常會忘記我的存在 : 的樣子(就是開party時沒到也沒被發現的那種) So what's a big deal? You have friends, don't you? that's enough that friends are really care about you then the rest of 'friends' who can play with you but can't care about you do not call them "friends" : 3.別人開玩笑 : 時大家氣氛都會很熱絡 但同樣的玩笑我來說大家就便的正襟危 : 坐 that's a difference between a intersting person and a joker everybody paying attention to you is a good thing : 4.私底下跟某位女孩聊天聊很開 但她朋友一加進來我就變的 : 完全沒有插話的餘地(插了話又怕被誤解沒理貌) no matter you want to talk to them or not you must show your concentration to them smile and look at them is enough:) : 3.我的疑問: : 希望各位大大能給予小弟一些具體建議，教我如何改善上述四點狀況， : 感激不盡 : ps.每次當大家在談論跟感情有關的話題，我經常都感到被大家忽略，那種眼神 : 跟語氣彷彿自動將我定位成"不須要愛情的人"，這讓我感覺很沮喪，雖然我能 : 把事情處理的很好，但我不是工作或讀書機器，我也渴望擁有自己的感情生活 girls don't need a man who is good at everything they want a man who really care about them not to be a 'good guy' or 'good driver' you see some men are good at boy&girl relationship that's because they understand girls a lot you deal with them but don't understand them that doesn't work try to make some female friends who are kind to you and you'll learn many things from your friends:) ps: sorry about typing English --

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