※ 引述《pomelowen (柚子)》之铭言： : : 性别: : (男/女) 男 : 问题类型: 个人魅力题升&追女(这样符合规则吧QQ) : (个人魅力提昇/追男/追女/情侣相处/分手中(後)/其他) : 自己个性:认真负责、勤劳朴实，要相处很久的人才感受的到我的幽默感 : (请以20字内叙述自己的个性): : 对方个性: : (请以20字内叙述对方的个性): : 1.问题背景:从国中到现在(大二)喜欢过几个女孩子，但是都没有 : 在一起过，不是暗恋就是被发卡，长期的苦恼之後 : 认为是自己的个性出了些问题(下面列出四点状况)，然而不 ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ There's no wrong with your personality. Your personality is good enough. : 论是男生女生都觉得我的个性不错(认真负责诚恳那种)但总 : 是缺少了一点感觉 : 2.目前状况: : 1. : 每次我与女生的互动都仅止於讨论功课 : 的问题或者是处理事情 很难跟她们轻松自然的聊天 : 每次看到朋友与她们能够很自然的在一起打打闹闹都 : 觉得好羡慕 但是私底下明明她们对我的评价都说我 ^^^^^^^^^ Everybody has his own character. You don't need to envy other people's character. You are what you are and remember it. : 是个有趣的人(我办活动时带团康跟演戏都很放的开) : 但每次要开心的打闹说笑聊八卦都感觉很难融入 : 2.她们常常会忘记我的存在 : 的样子(就是开party时没到也没被发现的那种) So what's a big deal? You have friends, don't you? that's enough that friends are really care about you then the rest of 'friends' who can play with you but can't care about you do not call them "friends" : 3.别人开玩笑 : 时大家气氛都会很热络 但同样的玩笑我来说大家就便的正襟危 : 坐 that's a difference between a intersting person and a joker everybody paying attention to you is a good thing : 4.私底下跟某位女孩聊天聊很开 但她朋友一加进来我就变的 : 完全没有插话的余地(插了话又怕被误解没理貌) no matter you want to talk to them or not you must show your concentration to them smile and look at them is enough:) : 3.我的疑问: : 希望各位大大能给予小弟一些具体建议，教我如何改善上述四点状况， : 感激不尽 : ps.每次当大家在谈论跟感情有关的话题，我经常都感到被大家忽略，那种眼神 : 跟语气彷佛自动将我定位成"不须要爱情的人"，这让我感觉很沮丧，虽然我能 : 把事情处理的很好，但我不是工作或读书机器，我也渴望拥有自己的感情生活 girls don't need a man who is good at everything they want a man who really care about them not to be a 'good guy' or 'good driver' you see some men are good at boy&girl relationship that's because they understand girls a lot you deal with them but don't understand them that doesn't work try to make some female friends who are kind to you and you'll learn many things from your friends:) ps: sorry about typing English --

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