I'm currently in a relationship with a wonderful guy that I love. Even though he doesn't go to the best university in Taiwan but I still love him. He's what I look for in a guy. He's responsible, has a sense of humor, polite, mature, respects me and much, much more. I don't normally tell my parents when I'm in a relationship because they never seem to really care about what I think. Lately, my mother has been saying the most bizzare things and I can't stand it anymore. This is why I'm here posting this. A few students from NTU visited my city and mom was their tour guide. After her first day encountering with them, she kept telling me how wonderful they were. They were so polite, smart, and you know... all the positive good stuff. After all, what bad stuff can you say about people that you barely know? What was worse was that she literally tried hooking me up with some NTU kid. All I was thinking the whole time was "What the hell? This is out of nowhere." I think my mother should know better. I couldn't stand her repeately telling me who to and not to date. Soon after, she found out that I have a boyfriend and she was pretty upset. She's seen him once but she doesn't quite remember what he looks like. Again, she doesn't seem to care about my friends or what I tell her, that's why she doesn't remember. The things I tell her about my friends or whatever that's happening in my life,she will not remember. She can't even match up my closest friends names with their faces. Pretty upsetting if you ask me. I know this is mean to say about my own mother but she is sort of shallow. I don't communicate with her well because she's short-tempered and stubborn. I'm usually quite when I'm around her, I let her speak and tell me whatever she wants. I love her deeply and what she tells me do really affect me. I have my lovable boyfriend on one hand, and a mother who wants the best for me on the other. What she thinks is best for me might not be the best. How would she know that NTU guy is the right guy for me? What if he's just some ramdon abusive guy who plays around all day? Seriously! Who knows? Why the hell would I want to be friends with someone just because he studies at NTU? I really want my mother to get to know my boyfriend better before juding him. Boyfriend thinks it's not the right time yet because we're currently in a long distance relationship and he'll be serving the army this June. He thinks it's best to meet the parents after the army. How do I communicate with a mother that only wants what she thinks is best for me? How do I communicate with someone who doesn't really listen to what others say? I want help :( --

※ 发信站: 批踢踢实业坊(ptt.cc) ◆ From: 111.255.90.253 We've decided to meet the parents after his military service. I guess I just envy mothers that could talk to their daughters and support what they want. My girlfriends' moms are all very supportive of them and I want this as well. It's okay, time will tell, like always. I know she cares, and, of course, she does! I just don't think she's loving me the right way but who am I to say this, am I loving her the way she wants? Guess not. Thanks, you guys. I was very upset last night but I'm okay now. → huayuyu530:how old are you?? it seems u are not too old if 01/09 19:27 Yes, we're pretty young, still in uni. Thank you. She tells me things from her experience. I don't want to prove her wrong(parents can be wrong as well, just not all the time, haha) Sometimes it really does get annoying. I've had a rough time communicating with her for 20 some years now. I only realised this as I grew older. ※ 编辑: queenlv 来自: 111.255.67.14 (01/10 02:24)