If you can try to think of an ongoing argument as more of an intellectual deba te today, dear Leo, you can make it very constructive and you can expect to ma ke significant progress. Even if you and another party are on polar opposite e nds of the discussion, by hearing each other out and trying to understand each other, you can alter the tone of the conversation. Sometimes all it takes to break through in a contentious situation is showing that you care enough to li sten to what the other person thinks and feels, and it is likely they will do the same for you in return. -- 大狮们，如果你可以尝试将持续的争论当作是进行一场智力辩论，那麽这个争论就会变得 非常有建设性，并且你可以期待取得重大进展。 即使你和另一方持有完全相反的看法，通过相互倾听并试图相互理解，你可以改变谈话的 性质。 有时後当我们希望在有争议的情况下取得突破，所需要的只是表明自己很认真倾听对方的 想法和感受，而他们很可能也会为你做出对等的付出。 -- 吵架前，停看听 --

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